I recently visited the second grade classes to follow up on our chapel program about being a peacemaker. During the class lesson, the students engaged and discussed several concepts about being a peacemaker vs a peace-breaker. As we discussed peace-breakers, we reviewed the topics of bullying and tattling vs reporting. I hope your child shared with you something they learned from the lesson.
Here are some key points:
Bullying vs Mean/ Rude Behavior:
- Bullying is when someone repeatedly and on purpose says or does mean or hurtful things to another who may not be able to defend himself or herself.
- Mean/ Rude behavior is when someone says or does something unkind (usually happens once and may not be on purpose).
*Students were asked what to do if someone is being unkind to you or someone else. The children responded with "ignore it, walk away, let the person know you don't like it, and tell the teacher." We discussed how to let someone know when you don't like something he or she is saying or doing. Ask your child. what is an "I" statement? (I don't like it when you ____________, please stop.) We also talked about checking things out with our peers. Sometimes people/ children are not aware that they are bothering someone. By simply checking it out, we can avoid other problems. For example, If someone gave you a mean look, you could ask the person about it rather than thinking the worst. Say something like, "I just wanted to check things out with you. The look you gave seemed like you were mad or angry."
The three roles:
- Bully- the one mistreating others
- Victim- the person being mistreated
- Bystander- EVERYONE ELSE -The bystanders have the greatest number and should have the most power. We discussed standing up for others or finding help if we see someone being mistreated.
Types of Bullying:
- Physical- hitting, kicking, pushing, tripping, etc.
- Verbal- saying mean words or comments to or about someone
- Cyber- sending unkind messages or posts
- Emotional- excluding or ignoring others
Tattling vs. Reporting:
Tattling is telling to get someone in trouble. Tattling is often something that is not important such as someone is not in the right place in line.
Reporting is telling the teacher because someone is being hurt or is in danger.
And we discussed if they weren't sure if it was tattling or reporting, report it and the teacher can help the child understand if it was tattling or reporting.
We strive for all children to feel safe at school and they should feel safe reporting acts of unkindness.
Some questions or thoughts you may want to review with your child:
Do they understand the difference between bullying and someone being mean/ rude?
Who would your child go to if they were being mistreated? The nearest adult is the best resource. However, some students may feel more comfortable talking with someone else (classroom teacher, enrichment teacher, Mrs. Burnsed or Miss Knight). There are many adults who love your child!
What would your child do if he/ she was being mistreated?
Ignore or walk away, use an "I" statement to let the person know you didn't like what they did or said, check things out with the person, report to a teacher or another trusted adult